Unseen 2014

Happy New Year friends! Gosh, I can’t believe 2014 is over. And what a year it was. I remember updating my Facebook status on January 1st, 2014 to simply say, “It’s going to be a good one.” And man, how right I was, but for all of the wrong reasons. I thought I was going to get married this year, have my honeymoon this year, and settle into married life. I had planned a wedding, and had a dream of how life would unfold over the next few years. Now, I’m so bad at dreams. To have dreams is to put your faith and heart into something that you know might not come true. I’ve absolutely given up on dreams – on trusting what I want to future to be. Although you’ll find me smiling 95% of the time, a thin veil of pessimism has crept into my life, and instead of focusing on the future, or what I want six months from now, I’ve gained the courage to say ‘fuck it’ and just live in the moment. This has been somewhat detrimental to my health (because short term decisions often lead to horrible hangovers the next day) but at the same time, I’ve grown more in the past seven months than I have in the past five years. I’m living in the now. I’m not dwelling on the past or trying to solve riddles. I’m not worrying about the future or where I should be a year from now. I’m simply being me in the moment, trying to find meaning in everything I do, and letting go of the fear that’s associated with the unknown. I used to have a timeline of how I thought life was supposed to unfold. I used to keep track of how much money I was spending, what I was eating, how much gym time I was managing to squeeze in. I have genuinely let go of all of these things, and I can honestly say, I don’t think I have ever been more healthy, happy, prosperous, or confident in my entire life. It’s like something has suddenly clicked, and instead of trying to be what I thought I should be, I’m just being me, and turns out that’s even better. So my goal for 2015 is to keep this momentum up.

Earlier this year, Sid Lee gave everyone at the agency a Japanese wishing doll (called a Daruma). Upon receiving the Daruma, we were asked to make a wish or goal and then color in one eye to symbolize our commitment to achieving the goal. My goal was to live without fear. I did not want to fear the future, speaking my mind, or living life, even though it all suddenly seemed so uncertain. When you feel you’ve achieved you’re goal, you’re meant to color in the other eye of the Daruma. I’m still working on letting go of fear. Maybe my inability to dream or envision the future stems from fear itself. And I can tell you, trusting (as I’ve mentioned before) is a HUGE fear I’m really working to overcome. On the other hand, maybe letting go of expectations is letting go of fear. And embracing the moment is an authentic coping mechanism to banish worrisome thoughts that stem from the past or the future. Regardless, (as you can see) I’m still working on it, and that’s ok. I know 2015 is going to be a brilliant year.

That said, I wanted to take some time to reflect on the past 7 months (the first 5 months of the year don’t count as they were pretty much a wash). 

There are so many amazing moments I haven’t shared with you here on the blog, so I’ve gone through my iPhone photos and have pulled out a few of the unseen memories from 2014 that really made me smile for one reason or another. Please excuse the bad lighting, large pixels, numerous selfies, and overall crappy iPhone photo quality ;)


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8 thoughts on “Unseen 2014

  1. Fantastic photos, Ali! And you look fab in the blue dress too. If I may say, glad to see you are getting on so well after that fella left you. I admire your courage and strength. All the best to you in this new year. 😁👍

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  2. I love this post! I would only suggest one thing with your new lifestyle – make sure you have a little bit of money in savings, like enough to live on for 6-8 months just in case you need to. Otherwise, Yay!

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    • Very smart advice! When I first started working, this was my goal, in addition to having a bit extra to fly home if there was ever an emergency. It took a few years but now it’s there and it’s money I DO NOT TOUCH. These days I’m just irresponsibly spending away what should be the holiday / rainy weather / extra cash towards student loan savings lol whoops :)

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  3. Ali, As I was missing you I went to get a dose of your blog and came across this and my msgs to you – <3 you, you've come such a long way – so proud of you

    Rosh x

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